People Don’t Change...Except When They Do

People don’t change.

That’s the story we tell ourselves when we’re to scared to face our feelings.

When we’ve waited too long for someone to meet us in the middle.

When their silence speaks louder than any promise ever did.

And honestly?

Sometimes it’s true.

Sometimes people stay locked inside their patterns like a well-worn coat that doesn’t fit anymore but still feels familiar. They run the same scripts. They offer the same apologies. They disappear in the same ways.

But sometimes... they don’t.

Sometimes change doesn’t come in fireworks—it comes in slow, quiet awakenings.

It comes when someone finally sits still long enough to hear their own heartbeat.

When they let the world crack them open.

When they start asking better questions.

When they allow themselves to feel.

And maybe that’s the real hinge of transformation: not what you do, but how deeply you feel.

Because when you feel fully—without numbing, without running—you open yourself to possibility. And possibility? That’s where change starts.

So does writing this blog mean I haven’t changed?

No.

It means I’ve changed enough to reflect.

It means I’ve changed enough to speak with clarity instead of resentment.

It means I’ve changed enough to love someone who couldn’t love me back—and still not make that about my worth.

Because yes, I admitted I loved someone who was incapable of acknowledging their own feelings.

But did that mean I became someone’s side piece?

No.

Never.

I have never valued myself so little.

Love doesn’t always require logic—but self-respect does.

And I’ve never let mine slip through someone else’s fingers.

Change isn’t always visible from the outside.

It’s not always a new job, a new partner, a new city.

Sometimes it’s internal. Invisible. Unmistakable.

It’s the shift from waiting for someone to see you…to seeing yourself clearly.

Loving yourself fiercely.

Choosing yourself, even when no one else does.

So no—people don’t change.

Unless they do.

And if you’re reading this—if you’ve made it this far—you probably have, too.

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