Step 4: Open Your Heart and Let Love Flow OUT of You

Somewhere along the way, we’ve been sold a lie about love. We’ve been told it’s something we have to earn, something someone else grants us, something fragile and scarce. But what if love isn’t something to chase, but something to give? What if love is already inside of us, waiting to flow freely if we just get out of our own way?

This is the wisdom at the heart of The Magic of Surrender by Kute Blackson. He presents a much more fulfilling view of love—one that takes away the scarcity, the fear, the exhausting need for validation. Love, he teaches, is not something another person gives you. Love is what flows from you when you open your heart. It is boundless, limitless, and always available to us if we are willing to surrender to it.

And you know what happens when you truly understand this? The entire equation of flirtation, attraction, and connection shifts.

Suddenly, flirting isn’t a high-stakes game where your worth is on the line. It’s not about getting something from someone—it’s about sharing your energy, your joy, your humanity with another person. The risk of rejection evaporates because you’re no longer looking for someone to give you love; you’re simply letting love flow through you.

This realization is a total game changer. It means that no matter what happens—whether they flirt back, whether they don’t, whether the moment fizzles or sparks into something electric—you still win. Because you showed up open-hearted. Because you gave without expectation. Because you lived.

Think about the most unforgettable connections you’ve had. Were they scripted? Perfectly calculated? Or did they happen in a moment when you weren’t even thinking—when you just laughed, just smiled, just existed as your full self, unguarded and real? That’s what love flowing out of you looks like. That’s what makes you magnetic.

So here’s your challenge, dear hopeless flirts: Surrender to love. Let it pour out of you, not as something to win, but as something to share. Smile at a stranger with no expectation. Say the kind thing that crosses your mind. Let your energy be bright and boundless, not because you need someone to reflect it back, but because it feels so damn good to let it flow.

Because when you truly open your heart, you’ll never feel like you’re missing out on love again. It was never missing. It was inside you all along.

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